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Have you experienced rejection in your life? Are you still trying to get past it? Sometimes the stinging words of rejection from a loved one or friend replay in our minds more than we’d like. I just read a devotional from a YouVersion study called ‘The Spiritual Warfare Battle Plan.” At one point it said, “A spirit of rejection attacks your identity.” This could be your identity as a family member, friend, or employee.
Over the years I’ve been rejected by family members—on my father’s side—and that made me feel estranged from that family.
I have had friends reject me over the years, which made me question my value as a friend.
Then as a television sportscaster, I was not renewed on a couple of contracts at the height of my career, making me believe I wasn’t as good at my career choice as I thought I was.
But once we understand that we must treat rejection as a “spiritual” battle, then we can move past the negative internal messaging, rooted in rejection. Things like: I’m not good enough. I’m not loved. I’m different.
Here are three steps I’ve used in my own life to overcome rejection.
1. Remind yourself of who you are in Christ. No matter what anyone else says, you are loved. In Jeremiah 31:3, God says, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” The Bible says God loved us so much that He adopted us as His children (1 John 3:1). That alone should be encouraging if you’ve been turned away by a relative. Often when someone rejects you, it’s because of some insecurity they are experiencing, not because of anything you have done.
2. Pray against the Spirit of Rejection. You have the power in Christ to defeat it. The enemy of your soul came to kill, steal and destroy, but Jesus said in John 10:10 that His purpose is to give you “a rich and satisfying life.” When we are bogged down by feeling sorry for ourselves, that is not rich and satisfying. We press down the joy that is ours for the taking; we become stuck and can’t move forward to act on the jobs God has prepared for us.
3. Choose to Not Reject Others. This may the most difficult ask, because our tendency may be to run when we are hurt by people. That was how I reacted for many years. However, Jesus’ ways are sometimes counterintuitive. It was often the rejected that he reached out to in his three-year ministry—the lepers, the adulterers, and the demon-possessed. These were people that others labeled “unclean” and chose to avoid. But Jesus said to “love your enemies.” He commands us to love our neighbors as ourselves, and those neighbors don’t always fit our mold.
How does this look?
I was rejected by a half-sister, but still pray for her kids, even though I have no relationship with these nieces and nephews.
I realized that my career rejection was the best thing that ever happened to me. It turned my life back to the Lord and I have no bitter feelings toward the networks that cut me loose.
And I understand now, that some friends aren’t ready to go where God is taking us. Interests change. Focus becomes different. We may miss some of those pals, but what usually happens is that the Lord brings new sisters and brothers to walk alongside us in the next phase of our journey.
If you have felt rejected, you are not alone. We have all been rejected at one time or another but we have to look at it a different way. Behavioral Scientist Steve Maraboli once said, “Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was being redirected to something better.”
That is a great truth, but this is also truth—God doesn’t just want something better for you. He wants the best for you.
We’d love for you to join us for POP Chat tomorrow night at 6:30 p.m. We will be discussing “How to Have Unity.” Lisa Burkhardt Worley is teaching on the subject and our guest worship leader is Teresa Harmening. Here’s the link to sign up: https://share.hsforms.com/15bHBupdrTBugXxD9Y8Q_MQ3jo4z?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=89304151&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-8r8FWa_kFZcONxlsE2ffQ7UwrWi80D9kV7cShhbPCtoJU6G_84OxxMXOdyqUVM3SpAmUUVJ1uYGLCH76typbi-yn-wIA&utm_content=89304151&utm_source=hs_email
I have gone back to reading a book I have been working on for awhile. Yes, unfortunately, I am a slow and distracted reader so I have four or five books I keep picking up when I have time to read. Yesterday, I picked up The Strength You Need: The Twelve Great Strength Passages of The Bible by Robert J. Morgan. I’m ashamed to say that I have had the book on my nightstand since 2017 and keep reading a bit and moving on, then back again. However, as I picked up the book yesterday, I realized God was calling me to each section at His perfectly timed moments. He brought me just what I needed for the events happening in my life.
As I reflected on my notes in 2017, I remember reading Chapter 1 on Deuteronomy 33:25, “Your strength will equal your days.” This came just as I had walked through cancer with my dearest friend Elle, as she moved to heaven after succumbing to the disease. The following year (2018) I see notes in Chapter 3, “The joy of the Lord is your strength” (Nehemiah 8:10), as I raced to the airport to fly to my oldest daughter because she was being admitted to the hospital for a collapsed lung. While the reason for our visit was scary, our time together was heartfelt, memorable, and created an unbreakable bond.
The notes from 2019 highlight Chapter 5. “In quietness and trust is your strength” (Isaiah 30:15). Those was the encouragement as I woefully dropped off my youngest to her first day of college and accompanied my mother to her cancer treatments.
God had perfectly timed each reading. Now, I did say I was a slow reader, but I have read a lot of other things in between. However, it is June of 2020 and I am just now picking up this book again. And wouldn’t you know it—another divine appointed reading. Chapter 8 is about the book of Habakkuk, specifically Habakkuk 3:19 which says, “The Sovereign Lord is my strength; He makes my feet like the feet of deer, He enables me to tread on the heights.” Morgan shared in his book how Habakkuk bemoaned to God wondering why His people were behaving so poorly and when it would all end. God replied that He had better get used to the horrible behavior because He wasn’t going to do anything to change it and, in fact, would be sending in a nation to take them captive! Habakkuk cried out again asking how could God let the worst of the worst come and to allow His people to be taken captive? He explained to God we are bad, but the enemy armies invading are worse! Regardless, Habakkuk said he would stay at his post.
God explained that by faith His people will be saved. They need to have trust that His plans are far greater than they could understand, and that evil will be judged. Habakkuk rejoices in the knowledge that God’s plan is divine and filled with love for His people. He then says that He will strengthen those who have faith and will give them feet as deer to handle the rough terrain until we reach our heights. He then writes a song of rejoicing!
God didn’t take the hard time away —He just promised to be there with Habakkuk (and us) during the hard times. In fact the hard times may get worse, but God had divine plans for each and every one of us; but most importantly, God wants us to trust Him and rely on Him, even when we don’t understand why times are so difficult.
Trust the Lord to help us maneuver through this trying time in history. Trust in the Lord to guide us and show us how we share His love within our families and communities.
We want to invite you to our next POP Chat, this Wednesday night from 6:30-7:30 p.m. Our guest worship leader will be Teresa Hammering and Lisa Burkhardt Worley will be teaching about “How to Have Unity.” We will also have a conversation about the subject so you don’t want to miss out! Here’s the link to register: https://share.hsforms.com/15bHBupdrTBugXxD9Y8Q_MQ3jo4z?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=89304151&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-8r8FWa_kFZcONxlsE2ffQ7UwrWi80D9kV7cShhbPCtoJU6G_84OxxMXOdyqUVM3SpAmUUVJ1uYGLCH76typbi-yn-wIA&utm_content=89304151&utm_source=hs_email
Wow, has our country been dealing with a lot of drama! It makes me want to run and hide. I feel so overwhelmed with everything that is happening: Covid19, the stock market roller coaster, unprecedented unemployment, riots, civil unrest, cities still closed, universities unsure if they will open, an election coming, and I won’t even get into everything that is happening in my personal life. Fear, anxiety, depression, and worry is everywhere on media, social media, and even at the dinner table. It seems like there is no place to hide, no retreat, no place to go for some peace and joy.
So why am I not hiding?
I am not hiding because people need me.
My husband needs me.
My daughters need me.
My parents need me.
My siblings need me.
My extended family needs me.
My friends need me.
My community needs me.
My country needs me.
They need me to be strong, to care for them, and to speak up for them. It’s not that I feel all self-important, but each of us are needed. Everyone has value. Everyone is a treasured member of their family, of their friend group, of their community, and of this country.
Just recently, I was given the blessing of being needed. I flew to Wisconsin to stay with my niece, her husband, and their brand new two-week-old baby boy. While I was there I did not do anything extraordinary. I moved boxes. I unloaded boxes. I put dishes away. I vacuumed. I made meals. I held a baby. I changed a diaper—okay more than one diaper. All of these things added up to be a blessing to new parents. They weren’t extraordinary things and they weren’t expensive things, they were just done out of love.
Another reason I’m not hiding is because I know where my peace comes from; and I know where my joy comes from. They do not come from what I have, from what I have earned, and they don’t come from the media or social media. My peace and my joy come from the Lord, PERIOD, full stop. My peace comes from my time with the Lord in prayer, in His Word, in worship music, and in fellowship. My joy comes from sharing prayers, hardships, laughter, and from sharing love.
In a time where it is easy to run and hide —and no one would blame you for it— it is important to remember who your foundation is in. I look to my Lord and Savior to find my strong foundation. I DO NOT look to the Lord to find judgment in others. I DO NOT look to the Lord to find condemnation in others. I DO NOT look to the Lord to lift myself above others. My Lord, Jesus Christ, is about “joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23). Jesus is about “healing the broken-hearted and binding up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).
So please do not run and hide. Instead, reach out to bless others. Do the little EXTRAordinary things to help one another. Now is not the time to hide, but to shine. Shine the Light of the Lord in the Love that You Share.
We’d love for you to join us on the next POP Chat, which is Wednesday, June 24 at 6:30 p.m. In this meeting we will introduce a new Worship Leader, Teresa Hammering, and Pearls of Promise Founder, Lisa Burkhardt Worley, will teach on “How to Have Unity.” Per usual, there will be prayer and discussion. Here’s the link to sign up: https://share.hsforms.com/15bHBupdrTBugXxD9Y8Q_MQ3jo4z?utm_medium=email&_hsmi=89304151&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-8r8FWa_kFZcONxlsE2ffQ7UwrWi80D9kV7cShhbPCtoJU6G_84OxxMXOdyqUVM3SpAmUUVJ1uYGLCH76typbi-yn-wIA&utm_content=89304151&utm_source=hs_email