Tag : fear
Tag : fear
Have there been times when you were afraid/ fearful? This is obviously a rhetorical question, but what I want you to think about is what you did or didn’t do about that fear?
When I think about being fearful, a sweet memory comes to mind. It was my first trip to Oklahoma to visit with my dear friend, Kim. We had become close friends when we lived in Prosper, Texas together. Gathering daily for a walk once we dropped off our children at school, we would talk and talk and talk as we walked.
Now there’s just one thing you need to know about Kim before we go any further. Kim has four children, all adopted from Korea. Kim and her husband, Joe, adopted each one of these children with the understanding that more than one of them had some special needs. While God blessed her with four beautiful children, there were, in fact, two of the children who have life-altering special needs. Over the years, Kim and I had talked about all of our children and their needs, trials, and how we deal with the ups and downs of parenting. I felt familiar with many of her family’s challenges. Still, I had only visited with her children minimally, an hour here or there at birthday parties or little visits at her home, but nothing truly immersed. This particular visit would be a three-day adventure, and I would be staying in her home.
Some of you may not think this is a big deal, but as Kim shared with me, many parents with children who have special needs can sometimes feel apologetic if their child has behavior issues that could be wrongly interpreted as poor parenting, such as unruly or abrasive behavior, destructive tantrums, and so on.
I want to confess that as I had agreed to come and visit, I was, in fact, afraid. Specifically, Kim shared one of her daughters was in the middle of a medicine change and dealing with side effects of moodiness and increased agitation. I wasn’t afraid of her daughter’s behavior, but rather of the uncertainty I may say something or do the wrong thing that would upset her daughter. Afraid that I may witness a meltdown. Afraid that I would witness something I couldn’t help change or fix. Also, I was fearful that our friendship would be tested, and I wouldn’t measure up as a friend who could handle, accept, or understand her special needs children.
Before the visit, Kim called me with that much-needed intel about how the children were doing, what I might expect to see, and some simple do’s and don’ts. She even asked me if I was sure I wanted to come. I was afraid, but instead of backing out of the visit, I went anyway. I wanted to love on my friend who had moved away and whom I had missed. I wanted to show her love by loving on her family the best way I could, and I prayed it would be enough.
It’s when we are most afraid that we have to lean into love. Fear is going to come, and fear will go, but LOVE is constant. So when you’re afraid, when you are most fearful of all the what if’s, make sure you look inside and remember why you’re going to do what it is you’re going to do. LOVE.
I thank God that love does not require perfection. The trip to see Kim and her family was a success. I learned a lot more about living with children who have special needs. After the trip, my friend shared she had also been afraid. She said it’s a lot to ask a friend to come alongside the chaos that can, on occasion, be her life, and that she felt more love for me because I was willing to take on the challenge.
So remember, when you are afraid or filled with fear, GO ANYWAY. Show love the best way you can and gather all the precious moments with your loved ones.
Need a spiritual lift? We’d love for you to join us for our next POP Chat, tomorrow, Wednesday, January 27th from 6:30-7:30 p.m. CST. Our guest speaker is former Principal, Current Life Coach and Ministry Leader, Starlet Bell, and her topic is “Praying and Fasting for a Turnabout Year.” Our guest Worship Leader is Author, Singer-Songwriter and “Bible Chicks” Podcast Host, Carole Brewer. It’s one hour of Worship, Teaching, Discussion and Prayer. The entire Pearls of Promise Team will be there as well! Here’s the link to sign up:
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).
Margaret Feinberg wrote in her book, More Power to You, that “power awaits in believing, speaking, sharing, and declaring the transformative truth of God’s Word…[because] when you acknowledge your fears in light of God’s truth, you gain the confidence to move forward in spite of your fears, thus undoing fear’s enslaving power.”
The Lord commands, warns, and soothes us all 365 times in scripture to not be afraid, fear not, fear no evil. As we continue to struggle through our daily lives, I am excited with hope and filled with peace because I know who is in control. I know my path has been perfectly laid out before me. I will not worry about the mistakes I will make because I know my Heavenly Father will teach me with each step and misstep.
Each of us have the power to take control of our lives with gratitude, positivity, and grace that we extend to ourselves and to others. Our lives can be riddled with fear, or we can take the power that we have been given with our words and the Word of God and transform stress into opportunity and worry into gratitude. I choose to use my power for good. How about you?
Need a spiritual lift? We’d love for you to join us for our next POP Chat, Wednesday, January 27th from 6:30-7:30 p.m. CST. Our guest speaker is former Principal, Current Life Coach and Ministry Leader, Starlet Bell, and her topic is “Praying and Fasting for a Turnabout Year.” Our guest Worship Leader is Author, Singer-Songwriter and “Bible Chicks” Podcast Host, Carole Brewer. It’s one hour of Worship, Teaching, Discussion and Prayer. The entire Pearls of Promise Team will be there as well! Here’s the link to sign up:
My husband and I were in Denver, Colorado last weekend and rented a car for one day. On our way back to the rental car facility the tire pressure light came on. When we stopped to check it out, we found out the tire was down to 22 pounds and was supposed to carry 32 pounds of air.
So fear began to set in as we had about twenty more miles to drive on major highways. I keep praying, “Lord, please don’t let the tire blow.” I was worried we would have an accident, or worse. My body was tense. I was filled with anxiety and holding tightly onto the armrest of the car. I did not relax until we made it to the rental car facility, and was majorly relieved that we were safe.
In retrospect, why didn’t I just relax and trust God that he would get us to the rental car site without a problem? I had prayed, so where was my faith? Instead I chose fear over faith.
We can look at our current world scenario and the Global Pandemic the same way. Yes, people I know have gotten sick but they have recovered. Some are dying, but I have prayed proactive prayers asking God to shield our household from COVID-19, In an act of faith when all this started, I anointed our door frames, and I need to trust that God can and will protect us. So far. So good. Faith is winning.
But if you are struggling to choose faith over fear, here are two practical ways to overcome fear both starting with “R.”
Recognize the Spirit of fear is not from God. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” When fear comes over us, we must rebuke it, in the name of Jesus. Speak back to it. Last Sunday, I started sneezing and my nose was running. I do have allergies, and this could possibly be a cold, but with all that’s going on with COVID-19, it’s easy to start worrying that this could be the Coronavirus. I am rebuking the thought. Do I have faith, or am I going to be fearful? Ephesians 6:16 says we need to take up the shield of faith and with it, we can dodge the fiery darts of the evil one. By Tuesday, I was well.
Remember that if we believe in God and His Son, Jesus, we can overcome fear. Psalm 56:8 says, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Jesus said in Mark 5:36, “Don’t be afraid, just believe.” We need to remember how our heavenly Father has brought us through problems in the past. The Israelites provide a great example of this. They remembered that God had parted the Red Sea and the Jordan River for them, so when it was time to conquer Jericho, they pressed into faith rather that fear, despite the prerequisites required for victory. In Joshua 6, The Israelites were told to first march around the city once a day, then on the 7th day, circle Jericho seven times while the priests blew trumpets. On the final long blast of the trumpet, the whole army was instructed to shout. It was an act of faith, and when they did what God asked (even though it was unorthodox) the Jericho walls collapsed. Faith trumped their fear.
Fear can paralyze us and can prevent us from moving forward. Well known paster, Rick Warren, said, “Fear is a self- imposed prison that will keep you from becoming what God intends for you to be.”
Today, will you choose faith, or will you choose fear? Faith always diffuses fear.
“The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” (Psalm 27:1)